Müge TUZCUOĞLU / Elif KAYA

DIYARBAKIR - Women, first incarcerated with 'honor' concept, but than, they comprehend the truth to the society; which trying to wrongly adopt them what is ’honor’ actually. Now they are questioning to the 'freedom' concept in the four walls. 28 year old Ayse İrmez, said she thinks her father would not visit her if she get arrested. She said, "After I got arrested my parents came to my first visit." She summarized women's has created exchange in society in the form of ‘’When I was waiting for my mother to give moral, my father always defended me’’ and 45 year- old Müşeher Ülker adds; The most difficult thing is in the face of those outside, stay between four walls.or else, as we had lived so many troubles that we had already chosen the freedom on the face of them.

How a woman changes? When she srarts to questioning?  İf what touches her life, she decides to leave the house? Pains? Dreams of freedom? those are made to herself, to her society and to her public? Maybe all of them…In all living areas, women thrown in the secluded corner. Body, spirit, dreams, all the individual efforts  are swept under the carpet. So Sitting on the kitchen, the breakfast conversation takes a long time. Eventhough being  a parliamentarian,  a housewife or a  worker  a teacher, always pushed. She is away. Because, she is woman, weak and  powerless. Always less intelligent, less efficient, less studied, more ignorant, more emotional, more durable. if she is  prisoner? İf that woman is a woman in prison…While the dormitories,which are at the corner, farthest the most outside of the common areas,are deeming proper  even in Diyarbakir E-Type Prison … Women prisoners, their roads are cutting while male prisoners are outside , if male workers would come to a repair on the dormitory forced to pick theirself  up….. They also changed a lot and changed . These changes began as a small child. She took Responsibility  the loads put on her shoulders; changed. Roles  installed, asked the question; changed. Encountered migrations, deaths, prisons, experienced the greatest pain; changed. And saw that there is a freedom way and a chance for freedom! Pulled out her hands from dishwater,left the beds untidy,sat children  on the couch; went toward to the light coming from gate. Went outsde. First with timid steps. Tried to find her way, the correct. As she walked, she get stronger. Learned the method and way.she eroded the excesses in her life, the  redundant roles and the redundant responsibilities.
Women, we interviewed in Women's Ward B4 Diyarbakir prison, told their walking, began timid and getting stronger. They learned to walk,from  their  pains and freedoms. the four wards in the prison is not enough for women. As they walk, they  were involved in the community.as they become socialized,  they began to live  whatever considered fitting. They expanded areas. To be a better  mother, being a more powerful woman, being more free individuals…..

When the arrested is woman ...

28 year-old Ayşe İrmez, Imprisoned for 1 year.while she was City Council Member ,she was arrested.she is mother of four childeren, the youggest is 4 year old. Before 12 years ago,my uncle with his son and daughter were arested.  All the relatives  were ready to give all their wealth ,in order to release my uncle's daughter. In other words,they did   not to her being impirisoned no matter how many men were impirisoned. But she did not do any bad thing.but she was a woman.she shared her first memory about her woman relative’s arresting, and she says now evertone is looking differently. Ayse İrmez.,said  she thinks her  father would not visit her if she get arrested. She said; after I got arrested my parents  came to my first visit’’. She summarized with these words that the strated in change in the society  with the struggle of women.

‘You are a mother what is your job there’

Ayşe, while walking timidly in the street before,she begins to move more safely  after selected as a member of the city council . Then the operation is performed and the only woman among 31 men arrested that day. She stated that, her husband is the biggest supporter of her .she shares her husband’s change in this imprisonment process. I asked how’s it going? He answered ‘’ I knew that women's work is not easy,  but I did not know it is up to. Sometimes I wondered what you  are doing at home I  would said it is not work. But that was not so. I do not want to go home.home is different, rooms are different and children are different.’’ And always I said him that you can do the same. When we were newly married, he was working out of town, we were alone.I said ‘’ How can I do, you can do it too’’ Ayse expressed, the system especially directed towards women .she combines with amazement her the dissatisfaction with the idea "you are a woman,  you can not go into politics, what does a woman do in municipality"and  the prosecutor’s guestıon ’you are a mother what is your job there?’’ I said;a woman can do everything,too. She draws attention once more how much  a woman is manufacturer  with these words’’ The mission of the mother, as well as she can service to the people ’’

‘Only women understand each other and solve their  problems’

Ayse transfers following abouth the  process of change in prison :’’ the first 1 month I came here,I had difficulty. Especially for children….my children came to first indoor viewing and they criesd a lot. But now they come hand in hand with their  father.they   give very moral to me. Recently, I talked on the phone wiith my friend. She told met hat she had stopped smoking for a month and told me it and she said this to me on Women's Day. As a gift for 8 march.and my little girl said’’ Roja Jinên  Cîhanê li te pîroz be’(Happy International Women's Day). And now I am concentrating on this.  I will be a different  mother, different  a woman will  when I went. I will interested in women problems  for women, who strapped livelihoods, seeing violence.Because’’ only women understand each other and solve their problems’’

’ From shyness to self-recognition ‘

Müşeher Ülker is 45 years old and mother of 7 children. As she carrying out  women’s work in district she was  arrested and detained for 10 days a month. Previously she was an ordinary woman, engaged in dining, looking after her  children ,life is limited to home….

After talking about challenging aspects of her  relatives,she says’’ my father and my brother always gave  struggle for identity. And both were martyred. I also must do something’  she thinks ‘if Human wants can do everything ‘’and she share with us how she come to this conclusion:

‘’Than  I joined to the work party. I understood taht if human wants, can do everything. I stayed for 15 days in custody. I was pregnant for 4 months. Every day they were making  torture to us. I was too shy in the past. Later I got to know myself beter. There are some women who say I  can not do . Women are not like a bird with broken wing’’

Sometimes she discussed wiith her husband about women's studies and  stressed she prefers freedom. ‘’ after I was arrested he came to prison.he siad ‘Did you see what you did’And I said’’what did I do’’. ‘’I did not do  robbery, did not do evil’’ The most difficult thing is staying  between four walls on the face of those outside.Or we have suffered so much that we had already chosen the freedom  on the face of them’’with these words, once more she cries out to the whole word that she never regretted the things she has lived

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